change the environment, change the behaviour

We often spend much of our energy and attention on a child's behaviour modification. Our focus can be on controlling or modifying the behaviour towards our expectations. Often, this results in a lot of frustration on both ends. Why? Because as adults, we can feel like we have power over someone else's behaviour. And we don't. 

What we do have control over is the environment. When we focus on what we can control in the environment, the child naturally responds to the changes in the environment- which in itself, is behaviour change. 

Don't swim upstream. Focus on what is within your locus of control and allow yourself freedom from the rest.

Dr Sam x