The boundaries children need from adults but don't say

• I am not your project. Your desire to want more from me than yourself, feels like a burden. 
• I need to feel my feelings, stopping them for your comfort leads to more discomfort for me. 
• My behaviour is a reflection of how I feel, not a result of your behavioural management skills
• I need space to work through my feelings without judgement and blame. 
• I need to feel connected to myself, so that I can feel connected to you. 

 I am me. I am not a reflection of you.

We can get so caught up in only seeing boundaries as these harsh kinda behavioural management techniques, rather than actually looking at the boundaries children don’t say but really need for their emotional development. A lack of these kinda boundaries is what stunts self growth and self acceptance for children. The more we focus on our self growth and self acceptance as adults, the more space we can create for children to do the same 💝