The problem is not a lack of 'parenting skills'

Jan 08, 2024
Why do we think a lack of skills is THE issue?

Parents : “I’m messing up my child, I just need to learn how to be a better parent”

Professionals: “Once you learn these skills, you will be able to parent effectively.”

 
We overestimate the power of knowledge and underestimate the power of experience.
 
Knowledge on these topics can be useful...
  • parenting research
  • parenting skills
  • parenting knowledge
  • parenting strategies 

 

But not without these experiences, which are far more valuable 
The experience of;
  • being heard
  • being understood
  • being seen
  • being validated
  • being empowered
  • being conscious
  • being present 
  • being safe
  • being the EXPERT in their own life 

 

The more emphasis we place on the value of experiences for ourselves, the more space we create for others to do the same.