What if no one was to blame?

A child struggling with leaving their parent in the morning, would have many parents think "what have I done to cause this, where have I gone wrong". Rather than focusing on the child and their needs, "what does my child need in this moment", it's often layered with self-blame and guilt.

One of the reason why we internalise other peoples behaviours as a reflect of us, is because it speaks to a inner core wound; I am not enough. We often unconsciously seek out 'information' in our environment that confirms these beliefs, because that 'story' makes more sense to us, than another story/reason, such as my child needs more connection right now, or needs practice with boundaries.

We can support parents with this process by remaining focused on the child's needs, without the blame. Blame leads to nowhere good. But compassion and curiosity will support them to connect back with themselves and their child, amongst the challenges along the way 💕