You are not soley responsible for a child's good or bad behaviour

• A good strategy does not automatically equal good behaviour
• There are inner (development) and outer (environment) barriers that influence behaviour
•  If we feel competent with a child’s good behaviour and incompetent with bad behaviour, we are placing our self worth as their responsibility. 

We need to focus on our LENS- how we interpret the child, how we understand their needs, the context of their behaviour and how our 'stuff' is influencing the situation. 

We will never be satisfied if our effectiveness lies in another person. A child's behaviour is their communication, not a reflection of our worth as a professional or parent.

If we switch the focus back to ourselves, we can start to uncover, what is our default way of seeing this situation, are we struggling to see the good in the child, do we have a generous interpretation of the child and situation, one from a place or curiosity and compassion, or does it feel critical and judgemental? If so, how do we see ourselves? with that same critical and judgemental lens? There so much to explore within ourselves when it comes to our lens, and ultimately this is the example we want to model for our children. It starts with us.